''Love is the sweetest thing, what else on earth could ever bring Such happiness to everything, as love's old story?"

valentine’s day in colleges is an explosion of red, chocolate and rose petals. On this day love is in the air and every collegian is looking forward for a beautiful or handsome and cool gal or guy. But the question that arises on such events is do the relations or commitment done on this day last or just sway away with the blowing wind? Also, there is a question of why students date. What factors motivate them to commit—if they do commit at all?

Commitment—

commitment and seriousness is very integral for any kind of relationships. College students are generally frivolous about relationships. They are normally interested in pass by affairs and serial dating kind of activities. However there are other students who date seriously for a number of years. Such relationships may lead towards a future commitment i.e. marriage.

Dating—

There are several reasons for which collegians indulge in dating. Its not only for love or for proving oneself to be cool or something. There are various factors like maybe for academic help, entry into a social circle, attention, gifts entertainment, ‘timepass,’ or all of the above.
Apart from the positive aspects of dating it too has certain bad points. Dating distracts one from his/her career path or studies. Rather than attending lectures or concentrating on studies students tend to spend a majority of time in canteens or campus with their date. Apart from this bunking students go to parks and malls in college timings. This also affects their wllets to certain extent.

True love or attraction—

Many a times students feel that they are truly in love with each other. But it may also be a case of attraction or one-sided love. Many a times one of the person might be seriously committed and the other one might be taking advantage of his/her love. Understanding a person rather than only getting impressed by looks or attitude is very important to judge a person. Break-ups and other such things have a bad effect on one’s emotional status. This may have an adverse effect on one’s studies and grades.

Yet, despite all these hindrances, college students simply love being in love!

Qualities you may look forward in your date and judge whether he/she is really committed.

Humility—

 Humility is the most important attribute to look for in a person you might want to date. Pride and arrogance, a selfish, self-seeking attitude can destroy friendships and relationships. Every relationship needs to be mutual giving equal importance to each other and respecting each others feelings.

Authenticity—

Tthe person you are looking forward to date or commit needs to be reliable and genuinely interested in you. He/she must be a kind of a person whom you can share your feelings with and even the other person is comfortable communicating with you without making up stories or “beating around the bush.”

Knowledge—

 To find someone that has the capacity to know things in a critical sense surrounding your relationship and the world around them is important. If you are interested in a long term relationship then choose a person who cares to understand you and let your relationship[ grow steadily . there is no point in taking hasty decisions.

Integrity—

 Honor and good character is also a very important quality to seek out in an individual.

Fellowship—

 A good date would be someone who loves spending time with you but also gives importance to friends and other acquaintances. Alienating oneself from everyone other you’re your lover may cost you a lot in the future. So never shrug off your other friends for the sake of a relationship.

Direction—

Finding a mate that has a mutual sense of bearing is crucial. This can also apply to preferred family structure (kids, no kids), places to live, whether one wants to travel or not. Make sure you are both going in the same direction.

Beliefs—

 Finding a mate that shares your same beliefs and passions is another extremely important element. Our personal and spiritual beliefs tug at our soul. They are what we cling to when the world doesn’t make sense to us. When you choose to be with a person and that person doesn’t share in what is most special and personal to you, how can you possibly justify the relationship or convince yourself that it will last?